"If I just move to the right country, get the right job, achieve the next thing... then I'll finally feel fulfilled."
But somehow, wherever you go, that emptiness follows.
You've built a life abroad. You speak the language, understand the culture, have friends and colleagues.
Yet deep down, you don't fully belong here— and you no longer fully belong back home either.
As an expat or immigrant, you feel you need to work twice as hard to earn the same recognition.
The pressure to prove yourself never stops.
Your CV looks impressive. You've accomplished so much.
But inside, there's a voice saying: "This still isn't enough."
You're tired. So tired. But you don't know how to stop.
"Trying harder" is the only way you know.
Everyone thinks you have it together. You're the strong one, the capable one.
But who takes care of you?
Born in China, raised in Japan, living in the Netherlands for 11+ years.
I've crossed many borders, always believing the next place would finally bring fulfillment. Tokyo, Amsterdam, new careers, raising three children across languages and cultures—I kept trying harder, yet that "not enough" feeling always followed.
Until I discovered something unexpected:
Belonging isn't found in a place. It's found within.
I teach self-compassion because I've walked this path myself. If you're exhausted from chasing fulfilment across cultures, I'd love to explore this journey with you.
MSC Certified Teacher (Center for Mindful Self-Compassion, USA)
200+ participants guided through official MSC programs
Former corporate professional in Tokyo & Amsterdam
Mother of three, navigating multilingual parenting across cultures
When you've spent years adapting to new cultures and proving yourself,
being kind to yourself might feel unfamiliar
—even uncomfortable.
But self-compassion isn't about giving up.
It's about coming home to yourself
— reconnecting to who you truly are,
beneath all the adapting and achieving.
How?
By treating yourself with the same warmth you'd offer a friend who's far from home.
That's self-compassion: being your own best friend when you need it most.
Three Components of Self-compassion
Noticing when things get difficult— whether it's the pressure of adapting, achieving, belonging, or anything else— without judging yourself for struggling.
Responding to yourself with warmth when things don't go as planned— instead of the harsh "try harder" voice that's pushed you across borders.
Remembering that feeling like an outsider, facing setbacks, and questioning your path is part of every global journey— you're not alone in this.
What changes when you practice self-compassion
You'll find your sustainable pace instead of burning out chasing impossible standards.
When you stop hiding your flaws, your genuine strengths naturally emerge and shine.
Self-kindness creates a positive cycle—the more gentle you are with yourself, the more naturally kind you become with others.
You'll discover ways to use your unique gifts to make a meaningful impact, without the pressure to save the world single-handedly.
Build resilience that lasts, fueled by self-support rather than self-criticism.
When life throws curveballs (and it will), you'll have the inner resources to adapt and recover.
Self-compassion became my home.
It was not the perfect home I was desperately seeking.
And I didn't become the perfect person I was trying so hard to be.
I still lose my way.
I still struggle.
But now I have a place to return to—
a place where I can be myself, flaws and all.
And this home travels with me,
no matter where life takes me.
That's what self-compassion is:
not perfection, just a home you can always come back to.
And here's the surprise:
this imperfect home has been more empowering than any achievement ever was.
Knowing I can always come back, rest, and start again—
that's a kind of strength I never imagined existed.
The full Mindful Self-Compassion program, designed to transform your relationship with yourself.
8 weekly sessions (3 hours each)
Includes meditation practices
Half-day retreat
Small group, personal connection
Perfect for: Those ready for deep, lasting change
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The essentials of MSC in a more condensed format. No meditation required—practical tools for busy lives.
6 weekly sessions (1.5 hours each)
Focus on immediate, usable practices
Small group setting
Perfect for: Busy professionals wanting a taste of MSC
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I'd love to meet you at one of our introductory sessions.